The Love that came only after deep healing..
- Claire Costello
- Mar 21
- 3 min read

Hey love,
Recently I wrote this as the grief hit me like a wave—raw, unexpected, but deeply familiar. My tears now flow freely, and I feel fully, which is a gift, because for years, I couldn’t.
I’ve been reflecting on my journey—the layers of trauma, healing, and transformation that brought me here. My early life was marked by upheaval, instability and pain.
Me & my mum fled abusive relationships—including my father—and by the time I was five, we had escaped to England. That was where I met the man I always saw as my dad... until he left when I was 12 due to alcoholism.
That moment shattered me. The grief, loss, anger, and rejection ran so deep—but at the time, it was too much to feel. So I turned to the next best thing: numbing.
My teenage years were Drinking. Partying. Always with someone. Never alone. Never feeling. Always moving. Always running.
Because deep down, I was terrified of facing myself.
Until everything changed.
In 2011, I woke up. I gave up drinking. I chose a healthy lifestyle. I committed to my healing. I was single—truly single—for the first time, and I had to get to know myself.
And let me tell you, doing the inner work wasn’t easy.
My father wound was massive, and even as I worked through layers of healing, the same patterns kept creeping in relationships. But I stayed with it—deep healing, ancestral clearing, inner child work, releasing old belief systems, moving stuck energy, FEELING the feelings instead of suppressing them.
And then… something happened.
After a summer of doing this healing work, I was called back to Ireland—the land where I was born—to reconnect with my extended family (I have many! My mum has 11 siblings!) and ancestors. The journey was powerful. I even tried to find my biological father.
And at the end of that journey, a portal of love opened, in the city I was born.
A long-time friend, Ben, someone I had known for 10 years (and once shared a little more than friendship with back in uni 😉), came to visit me in Dublin.
And suddenly, everything was different.
It was as if the universe had been waiting for this moment. As if all the work I had done, all the deep healing, all the breaking of old patterns, had led me here—to a love that was unlike anything I had ever known.
Pure. Stable. Harmonious. No doubts. No drama. Just deep, aligned, sovereign love.
And here we are, 6.5 years later, still thriving. We’ve traveled the world, built a life together, actually enjoyed lockdown together, and even welcomed our beautiful child into the world.
And he’s still my best friend.
This is what’s possible when you do the deep work. When you heal. When you transform the wounds keeping you stuck in cycles of pain and disconnection.
This is what I am so passionate in helping others with, so they can be free to love, lead and live their best life.
I am grateful and overjoyed to say I have worked with many clients who have found their true love and created healthy relationships (and let go of toxic relationships) when committing to ClearTransmissions deep healing work and upgrades.
If you desire this kind of love—true, soul-aligned, unwavering love—it’s possible for you, too. ❤️
Are you ready?
If this speaks to your soul, hit reply and tell me what’s on your heart. Or if you’re feeling the call, explore how you can step into this healing journey with me by replying with LOVE ❤️.
Big love,
Claire
Energy Healer & Embodied Leadership CoachClearTransmissions®
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