Claire Costello

The father wound - whether through absence, neglect, control, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability - is a deep imprint many of us quietly carry. For me, it began early. My biological father was abusive, and we ran away when I was just four months old. Then the man I called “Dad” left when I was 12, after years of alcohol struggles and broken promises.I adored him. Losing him felt like a huge rejection - a wound that shaped how I related, loved, worked, and saw myself. For years, it...

For some of us this is a time of grief..   💔As I sat at my altar today, the pain and tears hit me like a wave, raw, unexpected, but deeply familiar. For years, I hardly ever cried. I was a master at suppressing, avoiding & numbing it all - the sadness, the longing, the pain. But now my tears flow freely. And that’s a gift. Because feeling means healing. With the veils thin and the ancestors close this Samhain, after giving and receiving ancestral healing sessions this month, I could feel...

So  many of us carry pain, tension, or exhaustion for  years. A knee that always aches, a heart that feels heavy, restless nights, a sense that something just isn’t flowing. And instead of reaching out for help, we  cope. We normalise the discomfort. We tell ourselves we don’t have time, energy, or money. We just “get on with it.” But what we don’t see is how much energy it  costs  to stay stuck. How much life force is drained by carrying what wants to be released. The truth is, we all have...