Healing the Father Wound & Returning to Your Intuitive Rhythm

The father wound - whether through absence, neglect, control, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability - is a deep imprint many of us quietly carry.

For me, it began early.

My biological father was abusive, and we ran away when I was just four months old.

Then the man I called “Dad” left when I was 12, after years of alcohol struggles and broken promises.I adored him. Losing him felt like a huge rejection - a wound that shaped how I related, loved, worked, and saw myself.

For years, it showed up everywhere: my relationships, my boundaries, my self-worth, my work… all of it.

Healing this wound has been one of the most powerful parts of my life - and it’s the work I now guide my clients through as they unravel the same patterns within themselves.

I went from:

➡️ Unhealthy relationship patterns & fear of commitment → to a grounded, interdependent partnership of seven years (and counting).

➡️ Avoiding and suppressing emotions → to being present in my body and feeling deeply without fear.

➡️ Overworking & perfectionism → to honouring my rhythms, resting, and knowing my worth beyond what I achieve.

And this is what my clients experience too - clearing the subtle, lifelong patterns that shape how they show up in love, leadership, and life.

5 Signs You May Be Carrying a Father Wound

If you had an absent, toxic, inconsistent, or emotionally unavailable father figure, the imprint may still be affecting you in ways you don’t realise:

1️⃣ Overachieving or perfectionism – always trying to “earn” your worth.

2️⃣ Difficulty with trust or emotional intimacy – fearing abandonment or disappointment.

3️⃣ Struggling to receive love or support – feeling like you must do it all alone.

4️⃣ Attracting unavailable partners – replaying what you learned in childhood.

5️⃣ Overdeveloped masculine energy – constantly doing, protecting, providing… with no space for softness or rest.

Some of these patterns are so familiar that “holding it all together” becomes our normal.

Until something inside us finally says:

Stop. Look. Feel. Something deeper is driving this.

And that’s where healing begins.

The Wounded Masculine Within Us

For the woman who’s tired of holding it all - who longs to soften, breathe, and move in her own rhythm…

It’s not that your masculine energy is wrong.

Both your masculine and feminine energies are essential.

I see it as a daily dance ~ listening to my intuition, my body, and what feels aligned.

The issue isn’t the masculine. It’s the wounded masculine within us.

When your inner masculine is healed, it becomes your ally:

✨ It protects your boundaries

✨ It holds space for your rest

✨ It supports your feminine to create, receive, and expand

You don’t need to abandon your drive.You don’t need to be in your feminine all the time.

You simply need to build safety with your inner masculine ~ the part of you that gets things done ~ so your feminine can finally trust, rest, and rise.

Today, if I push too hard, my body tells me immediately. For example, my right shoulder lifts, and that’s my sign to pause, tune in, and realign.

But when we’re rushing, heavy, overwhelmed…we lose these signals.

That’s when imbalance grows.

3 Simple Ways to Step Out of Masculine Overdrive

These small shifts create big change:

1️⃣ Pause and check in with your body.

Notice tension, breath, posture. Move, stretch, dance... let the stress melt out.

2️⃣ Say no to one thing your body is already saying no to.

Let alignment lead instead of obligation.

3️⃣ Give yourself 10 minutes of unstructured time.

No goals.No productivity.Just being.

Small, but deeply regulating.

And Here’s the Part Most People Miss…

The masculine wound doesn’t just come from our father wound. It’s also conditioned into us from childhood.

I see it so clearly now as a mother.

Children being rushed to school…Told to obey, achieve, be sensible…Never taught to listen to their intuition, their bodies…And definitely not encouraged to talk to trees!

This is why I’m passionate about teaching women to reconnect with their intuition, their body, and their unique rhythm.

Because when a woman honours her energy and moves with her natural design, she becomes successful in the way her soul desires ~ not the way society expects.

When you heal the inner masculine and rebuild trust with your intuition, everything in your world shifts. Your relationships strengthen. Your leadership deepens. Your body softens. Your life begins to feel like yours again.

You deserve a life that flows with your rhythm, not with the pressure you were conditioned into.

This is the work that changes not just how you show up ~ but who you become. If you’re ready to step into this next chapter with clarity, grounding, and inner harmony, reach out and we can walk this journey together.